The summer months mean wedding season; there’s no getting away from it, especially if your social calendar is anything like my friend's (I don't actually have any to go to!), and you seem to be going to a wedding every other weekend in July and August. With all of these weddings come countless tales of proposals: The when? The where? The how much?
Nigel O’Hara have been going through some of the most frequently asked questions from men wishing to buy an engagement ring for their other half, so they've put together this handy little guide to help you out.
How much should I spend on an engagement ring?
This is most common question from men looking to buy an engagement ring, and fortunately the answer isn’t complicated – it’s up to you. There has been a lot of hype around how much one should spend on a ring. Some will tell you three months’ wages is a good benchmark, while others will say one month’s wages is sufficient, and shockingly, some will even suggest taking out a mortgage in order to pay for the ring. In most cases you will find that the question answers itself once you find the right ring.
What type of diamond should I choose?
With so many different shapes, colours and styles it can often be confusing as to what type of diamond you should select for your ring. The shape of a diamond refers to the outline when it is viewed from above – the most common shape for an engagement ring being a round, brilliant-cut diamond. There are, however, many different shapes available, some with self-explanatory names like oval, pear and heart shaped, while some of the less obvious styles are princess-cut, asscher and cushion. There is no right or wrong answer; it depends on personal taste.
Tip: It is always a good idea to consider the type of hand that the ring is for – someone with long, slender fingers may not want a big heavy set diamond, but rather something more sleek and delicate.
What types of bands are available?
Another essential consideration is the type of material to choose for the band. Gold, white gold and platinum are three most popular options. But they are not the only ones, so if you want something a little different don’t be afraid to shop around.
Tip: If you an unsure of what to get, have a look at the colours of any jewellery she currently wears, or ask friends and family for advice (if they can keep the secret).
What if I choose the wrong one?
Most jewellers offer a returns policy in case she doesn’t like the ring or you want to change it, so do check the terms and conditions for any purchase before buying. It can be difficult to get the right size, so resizing requests are common and most jewellers will offer this service free of charge.
One final thing to consider is that the style of engagement ring will influence the type of wedding ring choices, as traditionally they are worn together. So it’s worth bearing that in mind if wedding ring ideas have already been decided – you will want to find something that matches.
Tip: If the pressure of getting it absolutely right first time becomes too much, you can always go ring shopping together, as more and more couples are doing. Make a day of it and have fun!
Selecting the correct engagement ring can seem like a stressful and daunting situation with endless possibilities, but know that the effort and research you put in will really help make the proposal that much more special.